Everyone is holding a lot. I’ve been saying this for 5 months. Times are heavy and hard.
One moment you may feel inspired, and then another moment depleted and exhausted. If you’re a sensitive empath like me, you may be feeling the weight of the world and the weight of your responsibilities and fears.
In these hard times, the itty-bitty-shitty-committee can be really loud. Maybe so loud, you’re ready to throw up your hands and quit.
If your itty-bitty-shitty-committee has been nagging you lately and you’re going through a hard time, the one thing that helps pull me out of a funk is to focus on the good stuff. Not just the positive affirmation/ ooey-gooey stuff that is lofty and esoteric, but the good, REAL, tangible stuff.
Okay Audrey, then what good stuff do you focus on then?
Well, that good stuff that’s unique only to you in that moment. Only YOU know it. Only you know the value of it.
In these hard times, it’s the good stuff that quiets the inner critic and keeps you going and leads to breakthroughs, both big and small.
I’ll share four ways to focus on the good so you don’t quit:
1. Allow yourself to feel your feelings
If you don’t allow yourself to feel your feelings, they will never leave you. We all want to be seen. Your feelings want to be seen. Don’t rely on others to do it. SEE YOURSELF first. Be with yourself. Don’t abandon yourself. This is self-love.
2. You are loved more than you know
In hard times, we feel alone. Seek out those people who support you. I have 3 friends I go to when my inner critic is shouting and I need grounding and clarity. When you feel untethered, rely on a trusted ally to help center you back to how much you’re needed and loved in the world.
3. You’re capable of amazing and hard things
Start a journal of all of your accomplishments – not just a journal about when you achieved a goal, but also those wins like having an uncomfortable conversation, starting something new or overcoming a fear.
My husband is an engineer and extremely organized, so he has all of our photos categorized by year and date. This online photo system is like a virtual journal for me to look back at the years of photos documenting our life experiences. It’s a great way to go back in time to see all of your memories, and they help me remember how far I’ve come and how much I’ve grown.
When you’re feeling stuck, it’s important to look back to see your evolution. You can do hard things. You’ve done them before. You will get through this.
4. You are valued and are here to take up space
Keep a gratitude jar or gratitude folder. It may sound a little cheesy, but it works!
I’ve personally shared with you over these past few weeks about feeling down – like so down, to the point of questioning my purpose. My itty-bitty-shitty-committee has been so loud I’ve been on the verge of giving up. Even sharing this makes me cringe. It makes me feel weak, but I know through my raw and realness, this helps us connect, so you know you’re not alone either.
We tend to dwell in those dark places of the inner critic, instead of seeing all of the light that surrounds us.
That’s why I keep a gratitude folder in my email box that I reference A LOT to help pull me out of those dark holes.
In these times of self-doubt, I revisit testimonials of students in my Soul School program who have said it changed their life, or I re-read your reviews of this podcast or I go back to my gratitude email folder and re-read your personal emails of how my words have resonated with you and helped you with what you’re currently experiencing. Your words matter to me, and you make a difference in my life.
Like you, I’m human, and we forget so easily. Our mind is quick to fill up with negative thoughts and get distracted and busy and keeps us from what is real and good.
Keep a folder to remind you that you are valued and are here for a reason. Take up space sister!
Also, if you like these ideas, check out my 52-week self-love journal on my website to help you connect with yourself each week – it’s free.
I hope these 4 ways help you combat your itty-bitty-shitty-committee when you get down in those dark places.
Your hardest times often lead to the greatest moments of your life. Don’t quit.
You’re about to breakthrough. It’s happening. Keep going!
Sending you lots of love,